Do You Have To Marry To Prove A Point? (1)
1) The creation of the Woman of Eden, Adam the female, could never have been an afterthought. I can really hear inquisitiveness of soliloquies asking, so, why would the Creator make the divine disquisition of Genesis 2:18? This is the reading of the verse: “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Was Adam the male found experiencing loneliness as the word ‘alone’ tends to portray? I have heard many preachers teaching, and Bible Commentaries pointing out that Adam was beginning to feel lonely. That, definitely, could not be the case for Adam in this verse. Adam, if you care to understand, had not spent a whole day of twenty-four hours, of his first earthly days!
Were there not thousands and millions of surrounding fascinating objects to keep his newly created jaws agape for ten years? Truly, he did not go through loneliness because the word ‘alone’ is the Hebraic bad (bad): ‘properly, by itself, besides, a part, separation;’ it comes from its root: ‘bâdad (baw-dad’) which means: ‘be separate, be isolated.’ I do agree with the explanation of Rev. Chris Okotie which says that the best definition of the versicular ‘alone’, the Hebraic bad, is ‘different’. According to the definition of bad God simply said, “not good that Adam should be different;” when ‘separation’ as its proper definition is taken into scriptural consideration. One aberrancy of biblical exegesis is its treatment à la human gregarianism instead of its theological facticity. How can you fail to understand that before God introduces an institution, He would have made a conclusion of it in heaven? If marriage prefigures the union between saved souls and the Lamb, did the Christ ever experience loneliness to need uxorial companionship – in theology? Like the One he adumbrates, Adam must need to take a wife – theologically speaking.
God’s choice of a ‘help meet’ for Adam was a submissive support.
God chose for Adam, a ‘help meet’ which is ‛êzer (ay’-zer): ‘help, succour; one who helps.’ ‘Êzer comes from a primitive root: ‛âzar (aw-zar’): ‘to surround, that is, protect or aid.’ And this is the reason why Eve would not fall into the discipleship of the spirit behind the serpentine evil of Eden incursion, unlike her first born, Cain. She remained an unwavering support to the cause of the marriage institution. God’s choice of a ‘help meet’ for Adam, no doubt, was a submissive support. Amen.
Is marriage just about enjoyment of coition; or about child bearing? It is certainly not about the gregarianism of abundance of wining and dining (jocularly christened “item number seven” in Nigeria). Marriage is an existential phenomenon of momentous amplitude. The extent of this gravity we always fail to apprehend. We see two people coming together to start a family, but the nuptial tie limns the ultimate connubiality between the eternal Christ and the Church. Now I believe it is clear why it is apropos that the Church is called the body of Christ; and remember when God brought the Woman to Adam, he could not help tapping his foot and snapping his fingers to the rhythmic rap of the joyous lines of Genesis 2:23, “This now bone of my bones, flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman.”
He had just found, among all that he had called by their names that very day, the good thing. The marriage establishment is the most serious and there is not more difficult institution like it. God made sure, therefore, that the first ever couple would never gain entrance into ungodly divorce, because in the beginning of the mooting the idea of nuptiality, no divorce room was made available in its legal clause of establishment. In impeccancy of perfection they were – God’s children –, when the first marriage took place in Eden. Marriage is only for born again Christians. Marriage is, therefore, not an act for just any couple.
Unnecessary attachment ends in divorce
“I love her,” is not enough to enter into conjugality. You cannot marry an unbeliever. It will be a freakish attempt. You will wish, all the days of your marriage life, that you never married this person. An ungodly marriage will seek an unfortunate divorce to end it. 1Corinthians 6:15, 16 & 19 “Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid. 16) What? Know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith he, shall be one flesh. 19) What? Know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?” 1Corinthians 12:27 “Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular.” Ephesians 5:29-30 “For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30) For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.”
Getting born again is a conscious effort on the part of an individual. Get born again. Say this sinner’s prayer.
“Dear heavenly Father, I come to You now in the name of Jesus Christ. I believe in my heart that Jesus is the Son of God. I believe that Jesus died on the cross for my sin. I believe that You raised Him from the dead. I confess with my mouth that Jesus is Lord and I receive Him now as my Lord and my Saviour. I give God all the glory. Amen!”
(…to be continued…)
Read part 2 here